They Do, I Don't

Yay for marriage equality in New York. Click HERE for a slide show of same-sex couples taking the plunge yesterday throughout the Empire State.

A lot of people have asked Michael and me if we're planning to wed now, to which we say no. (Thank god we're on the same page on this -- now I can better imagine what a nightmare it would be to be with someone who wants to be married if you don't.) Having THE RIGHT to marry was always of utmost importance to me, as is having DOMA repealed and the U.S. government stepping up to do what it has done on all other major civil rights issues.

But getting married was never high on my To-Do list. It's hard for me to know if having grown up with marriage off the table had anything to do with my complete lack of desire to wed. But I am sure having one or two extra Republicans suddenly give me the green light isn't enough to send me suddenly racing toward the altar. I found my happiness and what works for me long before any lawmakers warmed up to the idea of me being cared about by "society." (Besides, as great as it would be to have the boyfriend/partner/husband blank filled in once and for all, I honestly don't think I'd ever want to give up the chance to introduce Michael to strangers as my "homosexual lovah.") That said, when this whole marriage equality thing is completely taken care of, it will be nice to see little gay boys and girls able to dream of getting married someday, just like their straight counterparts. Michael and I saw a just-married couple walking down 23rd Street yesterday and we smiled and waved at them. Then we went about our lives as normal and smiled even more.