Wednesday, October 09, 2019

Matt Lauer Denies Rape Allegation, Says Affair Was ‘Consensual’

This morning I linked to a piece that described Brooke Nevils's allegation that her then-NBC News colleague Matt Lauer anally raped her in his hotel room at the 2014 Sochi Olympics. (His subsequent denial can be read HERE.)

Please don't put me in a position to defend this (by all accounts) repugnant person, but I have to say that if every time something happened to me in bed I wasn't expecting, necessarily wanting, fully prepared for and/or verbally consenting to constituted rape, then I would be a serial rape victim. She does say she "declined" when asked if she liked anal sex. But hasn't everyone at some point or another indicated they weren't in the mood only to then willingly go along with sex, if perhaps mainly to please their partner? Not only that, when asked if she'd liked it afterward she replied, "Yes." I mean, fine, that doesn't mean anything. She could have said that because it was easier than making a stink at that point. (Pun intended.) But I can also see why he would think something's horribly amiss since they continued to have a consensual sexual relationship after the alleged rape. (And was the "secret button" in his office not true? He's claiming it's not, for whatever that's worth.)

Above all, what I think this exposes is that it's not a "she said, he said" -- I believe her 100%. It's just that I don't think what she's describing matches what she's calling it. So where do we go from there?


Anonymous said...

I am with you.

Another observation. Why are the anchors on the Today Show talking about it? I, as an anchor, would leave it alone. I would the powers that be at NBC handle it. I read somewhere that they have a war room ready for the release for Ronan Farrow's book. By having on-air talent talk about it seems like piling it on. Yea, it is news and one may be obligated to talk about it BUT it is about your network. Maybe you may mention it in passing. Matt is gone. Wish him what you may and move on.

jaragon said...

Is she thought it was rape- why did she continue to date her rapist? This really makes no sense- of course I will be accused of victim blaming- but it makes no sense