Friday, May 03, 2024

Remains of the Day (05/03)

To be clear, Stellar is gay. Spare him “queer.” 
“I don’t like how gay has been marginalized and dismissed,” he said. “At this point in my life, I’m not going to go, Oh yeah, I’ve always been a queer artist.’ No.”
Louis Chilton: I've always thought the "cultural appropriation" complaint was a tad myopic -- but, hey, I'm also a fan of so-called "queer baiting" and wish more (hot) men would do it. So how do we feel about Darren Criss's proclaiming he's always been "culturally queer"?

Greg in Hollywood: Who doesn't love Christine Baranski ... besides Cybill Shepherd?

Hot Cat of the Day: So ... what are we having?

P.S. Because the first two items in this roundup deal with "queer-dom," I thought I'd share this post from Lady Bunny, which kind of gets to my biggest issue with the word. Yes, I dislike it because it's historically hateful and I was on the receiving end of it as a child far more times than I care to remember. But I can look past myself there. What I can't look past are people co-opting an identity that comes with blood, sweat and tears. And because the term is as trendy as it is vague -- when someone says they’re gay it’s unambiguous that they sleep with people of the same gender -- it feels like too many people, whether it be (well-meaning) allies or people trying to seem edgy, are latching on to it. It's not cool and really rubs me the wrong way.

And to Stanley Stellar’s point: I too bristle when I see it gratuitously used when “gay” -- or the equally specific "lesbian," "bi" or "trans" -- is more fitting and meaningful. (Note to world: Use queer sparingly.)

To coin a phrase: I'm gay! I'm staying this way! Get used to it! (Oh, wait.) 🤣

Dannii Minogue is not queer. Queer means getting it on with with same-sex partners. (Unless you're trans, which is more complicated.) So how can say she identifies as queer, when she's only dated men throughout her life and (I believe) is in a 10 year relationship with a man right now.  Were any of them trans men? Where were Dannii's relationships with queer women? Ain't none. 

Dannii and her sister Kylie could be considered queer icons since they have a lot of gay fans--like Grace Jones, Mariah Carey, Beyonce, etc. But queer women eat p#ssy. What Dannii is doing is hyping a lesbian dating show she's hosting on BBC. So she's using the queer community and pretending like she might be a part of it to further her career. In an interview, she claimed "I identify as queer in a weird way." Yes, and the weird part about it is that you don't eat p#ssy and have so far only dated men, so you aren't queer. 

Telegraph: "As one contestant, Amy from Surrey, commented that Dannii is 'just my type', Danni was asked if she is too attracted to women. 

Laughing in the episode, Dannii replied: 'You girls are hot. You know it. I love it. I'm here for it. Is that an answer?' 

No, Dannii, it's the answer you give when you are deliberately being evasive if not downright misleading. The queer community is not a fun mantle you throw on to promote your show. 

P.S: Isn't there even a famous lesbian who could host it who is actually queer? Stop using my community to dishonestly propel your career. Queer people have real-life challenges which you share none of because you're straight. Quit lying!


VRCooper said...

I was first introduced to Christine Baranski when she was a regular on the comedy Cybill-1995-1995.

Christine's comedic chops were glaring.

Don't forget the audience was also introduced to the handsome and hairy Peter Krause. And yes there were shirtless scenes. I do remember one with a football helmet and jockstrap. Tom Wopat was in it as well. And last but not least the famous actor Alan Rosenberg who was seen recently in the great series Bosh.

Cybill is one of those actresses that if she is on screen no one can overshadow her. Hate to tell the old gal, but others are equal or even better than her. It's called an ensemble show. One should root for their costars when it comes to their turn to shine.

Dave in Texas said...

I totally agree with you. Being called a "queer" in school, many times, was a nightmare. I hate to see that word used as a positive adjective. I think those who were not around in the 60s/70s don't know how bad it was to be called a queer. Same as being called a fag. It's fine to say I'm gay, but I will never say I'm queer.