A Bolger in My Pants

#TBT When I came face to face with John Bolger in 2007, who was the object of my desire since I saw him in the seminal gay film "Parting Glances" in 1986. (Charming, but probably could have done without my explaining how I used to "use" photos of him -- oops!)

Seeing Robert and Michael's relationship in "Parting Glances" was the first time I realized being gay could be "normal."

John Bolger — Sex & The City from Nina Shreiber on Vimeo.

 Fun facts: Bolger played Samantha's lover who liked baby talk on "Sex and the City." He is the great nephew of Ray Bolger, who played the Scarecrow in "The Wizard of Oz."

He also played Jason Alexander's brother(!) on the short-lived sitcom "Everything's Relative" in 1987.

Gives good head (shot)

The 30 Sexiest Gay Scenes in Film?

Out magazine has ranked the "30 Sexiest Gay Scenes In Film." (View HERE.) While I don't have too many strong feelings about their picks -- I can't really remember many of them -- I do know that the ONE scene that left a HUGE impression on me, or on my Calvins back in the late '80s, was Michael and Robert's "jogging/reading a book? scene in Bill Sherwood's "Parting Glances," which someone didn't even make the list. The hide-and-seek in the park, followed by the kissing and slowly undressing in the hallway -- and then the fleeting post-coital scene in the shower -- was the most romantic scene I had ever seen onscreen, and took my breath away.

Perhaps two men in a live-in relationship making love was considered too tame for a list that also boasts "brutality" and "recklessness," but the mere notion that two men could have a "traditional" relationship and, of course, have sex whenever they wanted was so erotic to me that I bought the VHS tape and watched it over and over again. I told John Bolger how much this example had meant to me when I met him at the film's restoration screening in New York. His feeling of being flattered was overshadowed only by his feeling of mortification when I couldn't resist also telling him that my attention was squarely on him! 

The Last Temptation of Michael

   If you're as obsessed with "Parting Glances" as I am -- see proof HERE, HERE, HERE and HERE -- then you'll be happy to know that Adam Nathan, who played the aggressive twink, Peter, from the record shop, has been located after a 25-year absence. He's a writer now -- but even more importantly you can see what he looks like today HERE!

Speaking of which, here's a recent picture "Michael" (aka Richard Ganoung)!