Tuesday, April 27, 2010

At Long Last

The wait is almost over ...

Pop-Tart Will Young Covers INSTINCT

In an exclusive interview in the new issues of INSTINCT U.K. pop sensation Will Young talks about everything from winning the inaugural "Pop Idol" title -- which later spun off into "American Idol" -- to the media storm that erupted when he came out ("It was like the second coming!") to the heartbreak brought on by an ex-boyfriend that would later inspire some of his best music yet. Read an excerpt from the piece HERE.

The Faces Behind 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell'

Happy to announce that I'm joining about two-dozen bloggers in a new media campaign organized by the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network -- STORIES FROM THE FRONTLINES: LETTERS TO PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA -- to help underscore the urgent need for congressional action and presidential leadership at this critical point in the fight to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT). Every weekday morning as we approach the markup of the Defense Authorization bill in the Senate and House Armed Services Committees, SLDN and a coalition of voices supporting repeal -- including myself -- will share an open letter to the president from a person impacted by this discriminatory law. We are urging the president to include repeal in the administration’s defense budget recommendations, but also to voice his support as we work to muster the 15 critical votes needed on the Senate Armed Services Committee to include repeal. The Defense Authorization bill represents the best legislative vehicle to bring repeal to the president’s desk. It also was the same vehicle used to pass DADT in 1993. By working together, we can help build momentum to get the votes!

Today's letter is from Joan Darrah, a retired captain in the U.S. Navy:

April 27, 2010
President Barack H. Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue Northwest
Washington, DC 20500

Dear Mr. President,

My name is Joan Darrah and I served in silence under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) for almost two decades. I share my personal story with you as we’re at a critical point in the fight to repeal this discriminatory law.

We urgently need your voice and leadership as we lobby the Armed Services Committees and the full House and Senate to end DADT this year.

I’m sure, as I do, you remember exactly where you were on September 11, 2001.

At 8:30 a.m. that day, I went to a meeting in the Pentagon. At 9:30 a.m., I left that meeting. At 9:37 a.m., American Airlines Flight 77 slammed into the Pentagon and destroyed the exact space I had left less than eight minutes earlier, killing seven of my colleagues.

On Sept. 11, 2001, I was a lesbian Navy captain who, at that time, had more than 28 years of dedicated military service. My partner, Lynne Kennedy, an openly gay reference librarian at the Library of Congress, and I had been together for more than 11 years. Each day, I went to work wondering if that would be the day I would be fired because someone had figured out I was gay.

In spite of that stress, somehow Lynne and I had learned to deal with "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"; we had made the requisite sacrifices. I had pretended to be straight and had played the games most gays in the military are all too familiar with.

But after Sept. 11 our perspective changed dramatically. In the days and weeks that followed, I went to at least seven funerals and memorial services for shipmates who had been killed in the Pentagon attack. As the numbness began to wear off, it hit me how incredibly alone Lynne would have been had I been killed.

The military is known for how it pulls together and helps people; we talk of the "military family" which is a way of saying we always look after each other, especially in times of need. But none of that support would have been available for Lynne, because under "don't ask, don't tell," she couldn't exist.

In fact, had I been killed, Lynne would have been one of the last people to know, because nowhere in my paperwork or emergency contact information had I dared to list Lynne's name. This realization caused us both to stop and reassess exactly what was most important in our lives. During that process we realized that "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" was causing us to make a much bigger sacrifice than either of us had ever admitted.

Nine months later, in June 2002, I retired after 29 years in the U.S. Navy, an organization I will always love and respect.

Today, nine years after that fateful day at the Pentagon, I am now committed to doing everything I possibly can to get rid of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" so our military can finally be open to all qualified and motivated individuals who want to serve their country. This is the right step for our country, for our military, and for all gay men and lesbians.

As a veteran, and as a witness to the 14,000 men and women who have been discharged, I thank you for your bold words in your State of The Union address: “This year, I will work with Congress and our military to finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are. It's the right thing to do.”

I have great love and respect for our country, and I know that we will be a stronger and better country when we repeal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell."

With great respect,


Capt. Joan Darrah

United States Navy (Ret.)

Tuesday Ad Watch

Page 1 Consider (04/27)

  • Blond Ambition: Meet Nick Ayers, the 27-year-old executive director of the Republican Governors Association. He's being hailed as "the bright young future of the Republican Party." But with his "runner's build," Jay Mohr fetish, "blond hair of a barbershop's model book," a near-miss DUI charge and ready admission that he "didn't really have sex for the first three years" of his marriage, I give it 18 months before he's caught "using the bathroom" at Mr. P's. (WaPo)

  • Dykeapolooza: Check out the Top 10 gay girl wishes for Lilith Fair 2010. (No 6. is my favorite: The Indigo Girls Teach Femmes How to Start a Campfire.) (SheWired)

  • Race for the 'Cure': California Assembly members have voted unanimously to repeal a law that calls for a so-called “gay cure." Assemblywoman Bonnie Lowenthal -- who introduced the bill -- called it offensive. “It was ludicrous then, it’s ludicrous now, it’s time to get rid of it permanently.” (CPR)

  • 'Dazed' and Confused: I don't know, "The Golden Girls" meets "Jersey Shore" set in retirement community in Arizona? I might not be able to resist WE television's "Sunset Daze," although I'm still not sure how my mom avoided being on it. (NYT)

  • The Dehumanization of LGBT-ers: Apparently one man's attempted (hate crime) murder is another's "juvenile prank." (Global Shift)

  • Happy Travels: Be sure to pick up the new issue of PASSPORT magazine -- you know, for the articles. (PASSPORT)

  • Follow-Up: Arrest and charges have been made in the Shannon Barry assault case up in Edmonton, Alberta. (QueerTwoCents)

  • New Agenda: Some great news out of Washington. The District's long-running gay weekly will resume publishing under its original name, the Washington Blade, at the end of this week, after the acquisition of the Blade's assets in bankruptcy court in Atlanta. Staffers have been keeping the 40-year-old publication alive as the DC Agenda while sorting out the legalities. (WaPo)

  • Jobs Search: Are all of you Apple cultists down with this bullshit move? (NYT)

  • Still Pretty in Pink: Brandon Voss has a fun interview with Brat Pack queen Molly Ringwald, in which she discusses her gay fans, Harvey Milk, the lack of gay characters in her '80s teen classics and John Hughes being a "big Republican." (Advocate)

  • Drama Queens: Terence McNally's "Corpus Christi" -- which has been banned by two different venues in Texas in recent weeks because of its controversial recasting of Jesus and his disciples as young gay men living in modern day Corpus Christi, Texas -- has finally found a home. (Cathedral of Hope)

  • Music Addiction: Fans of "Intervention" rejoice: the full version with lyrics of the famed "Five Steps" closing theme song can be heard HERE. (So THAT'S what they're saying!)

  • Party Pooper: Justin Robinette says he is leaving the Grand Old Party because he was impeached as chairman of Duke University's College Republicans because he is gay -- a claim school officials and the Log Cabin Republicans say is unsubstantiated. Good move, kid. But the real question here is WHY were you a member in the first place? (Advocate)

  • Book Marc: So happy to see that Marc Jacobs is "saving" the famed Biography Bookstore on Bleecker Street (one of my favorite haunts) and opening his own librairie in its place. (Gawker)

  • Sorry About That, Mr. DeMille: In small but significant numbers, filmmakers and casting executives are beginning to re-examine Hollywood’s attitude toward breast implants, Botox, collagen-injected lips and all manner of plastic surgery, turning instead to "natural looking actors from Australia and Britain because the amply endowed, freakishly young-looking crowd that shows up for auditions in Los Angeles suffers from too much sameness." (NYT)
  • Morning Wood: Colbi Bruce

    Learn more about the handsome OnDisplayMen.com fitness model HERE.