tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post7474673578575590928..comments2024-03-28T12:07:29.737-04:00Comments on kenneth in the (212): 'Private' PartsKenneth M. Walshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01666275272819956774noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-36950145474423025062009-07-31T21:42:13.581-04:002009-07-31T21:42:13.581-04:00While your friend may have been a little over the ...While your friend may have been a little over the top and got her knickers in a big knot, I do have to agree with her. She has a reasonable expectation to privacy, and you have an obligation to ensure that you maintain her privacy should she so desire.<br /><br />There's a difference between telling your boyfriend or dinner companions an amusing story versus blogging about it for the world to read. Using first names or generics works just as well to get a story across. If you were looking for her I think you could have put a little more effort, through different means, to find her rather than dropping her full name and hoping she was vain enough to Google herself.<br /><br />That being said, I'm not dumping on you. I love to read your blog, it's always entertaining. I can do so relatively anonymously, which is generally how I prefer to lead my internet life (and my friends know it). But now I've had my say, and I'll sign my name.<br /><br />Cory J.Coryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883411584177776535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-6827427617400987132009-07-31T15:37:28.522-04:002009-07-31T15:37:28.522-04:00It is a brave new world in terms of where to draw ...It is a brave new world in terms of where to draw the line between what is public and what is private. Changing names to protect the innocent, or those that haven't given their consent, has been a good policy in the past and is still worthy of being observed.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11747160195791978461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-50875594627206109742009-07-31T13:13:51.054-04:002009-07-31T13:13:51.054-04:00I've written about a lot of events that occurr...I've written about a lot of events that occurred involving others (I don't live in a bubble), to which they were pissed I mentioned them (although never by name).<br /><br />Their privacy was kept intact, but their/our/my stories were told to a smallish audience.<br /><br />But this is my world, too. Why shouldn't I be able to tell people about my life if I choose to do so?Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14985551962784298632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-90966873531932897122009-07-31T10:09:49.253-04:002009-07-31T10:09:49.253-04:00Great post - you touched on something that's b...Great post - you touched on something that's been an issue for many bloggers and their family and friends. I used to post ruthlessly about my friends, telling them if they don't want something written about, then don't do it with me(like dragging me to a straight strip club where they didn't serve liquor). Those are my memories too, and if I choose to share them that's my right. But in the last few years, I realized that wasn't fair, so at the most I use first names only. Thanks for sharing your take on it!Alan Bennett Ilaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883573292340803356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-3672877614568730702009-07-31T08:57:23.000-04:002009-07-31T08:57:23.000-04:00Wow, Babycakes! Somebody sho' did push your b...Wow, Babycakes! Somebody sho' did push your buttons!<br /><br />Love you, mean it. Really.<br /><br />MotherRichard Wallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10441201504468650336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-62786491675867962752009-07-31T08:28:07.406-04:002009-07-31T08:28:07.406-04:00Augustin Burroughs is a bad example because there ...Augustin Burroughs is a bad example because there is a lot of legit evidence that he deliberately changed details, and also he was writing unsparingly about people he thought were quite deserving of criticism and so was apparently trying to keep them anonymous (but enough clues existed that they were well-known to any who cared to find them). <br /><br />What you were doing was reliving your own memories, and trying to do so honestly.<br /><br />In that regard, I'm with you that legally and ethically, anything goes.<br /><br />However, you're right—there are people who fear the Internet can lead to job loss and stalkers and the like, and then there is the simple issue of vanity (because nobody thinks they look the same way others think they look), so aside from your being in the right, there is the separate issue of, "I'm fine to do this if I choose, but will it piss someone off?"<br /><br />Like you, I tend to cave and/or err on the side of sparing people. I laugh at people who make fun of others publicly (Kathy Griffin was a good example, others would include Perez Hilton), but I can't bring myself to do that too cavalierly because unless it's someone I truly have no respect for anyway, it is an awkward feeling. <br /><br />I had out friends (not straight models) ask to not be seen on my gay blog because it's too sexual. It annoyed me but I could see their point, too.<br /><br />Sorry to hear this affected you so; it would have pissed me off, especially since she started out with hostility instead of a gentle, "Hey, would you mind changing this...?"Matthewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019970115004143708noreply@blogger.com