tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post126702674213044286..comments2024-03-28T12:07:29.737-04:00Comments on kenneth in the (212): Anonymous Photographer, Katie Way of Babe.net Accused of #RevengePorn Against Aziz AnsariKenneth M. Walshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01666275272819956774noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-44853200174270443852018-01-29T10:41:03.602-05:002018-01-29T10:41:03.602-05:00I've been in situations like this both ways ar...I've been in situations like this both ways around. In my early 20s I was not very self aware and had some self esteem issues. I'd end up in awkward sexual situations even resigning to having sex I didn't really want just so the bloke would leave me alone or because somehow I thought I had to. I don't consider those men sexual predators, maybe sexually aggressive and not giving a shit about anything but them getting off (didn't really matter to them, it seems, if I was into it or not). On the other hand, I am quite confident now and know what I want. I'm certainly not used to a guy who is hesistant about jumping in the sack, so I go for it if I want it. Never had complaints, except upon reflection once. First time we hung out, I figured like most guys, he wanted to have sex, so I engaged in foreplay. He really just wanted to hang out and get to know me, I guess? Anyway, although he was aroused, it became apparent to me that he was not comfortable, so I stopped. Sexual encounters can be awkward and people, male or female, can be unsure of what they want even when their original intent was to hook up. Are we supposed to constantly ask the other person if they're okay? Have safe words for any sexual encounter? Obviously, work needs to be done on being more sensitive to rack other's needs and better at reading nonverbal cues, but these gray areas are hard to navigate. I know I wouldn't want a guy checking in with me every few minutesCryshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09586916893136206503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-82088682611992157802018-01-15T20:09:42.444-05:002018-01-15T20:09:42.444-05:00If you don't want to have sex then don't g...If you don't want to have sex then don't get nakedjaragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14424886904148460509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-90768489869976552672018-01-15T19:19:58.995-05:002018-01-15T19:19:58.995-05:00Anyone who’s said “we’re not doing that” or “I’m c...Anyone who’s said “we’re not doing that” or “I’m calling it a night” or whatever wonders why Grace couldn’t wouldn’t didn’t. Maybe I know a v different set of women (and men in situations similar to Grace’s). Not persuaded she’s typical of anything.Willhttps://twitter.com/will02118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-10864029401975840522018-01-15T18:06:35.214-05:002018-01-15T18:06:35.214-05:00I agree with the #MeToo movement in principle, but...I agree with the #MeToo movement in principle, but sometimes it can go too far (i.e., Al Franken). I think each case needs to be looked at individually and any person accused of sexual harassment is entitled to due process.The Gay Curmudgeonhttps://thegaycurmudgeon.blogspot.com/2018/01/goodbye-bette.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-40579787016115620562018-01-15T17:59:35.259-05:002018-01-15T17:59:35.259-05:00I tend to overwhelmingly take the side of the wome...I tend to overwhelmingly take the side of the women telling these stories... And this woman clearly did not have a good time... But I don't think this rises to the level of career-ending assault? I think some men with non rapey intentions can legitimately be this stupid... Men (straight ones at least?) tend to be terrible at reading nonverbal cues, especially when grasping at the possibility of getting laid. <br /><br />He can talk as good a game as he wants... He is probably literally getting more ass than he knows what to do with. Those guys tend not to progress beyond the horny 18 year old level because... I hate to go there... "when you're famous they let you do it."Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-3269938703514115692018-01-15T16:20:56.495-05:002018-01-15T16:20:56.495-05:00Yeah, this is really getting fucked up; alas, the ...Yeah, this is really getting fucked up; alas, the real cases are the ones that suffer for including unfortunate encounters as MeeToos.<br /><br />And yes, revenge porn is an apt label. It won't be easy for Ansari, but, the very details of the allegation actually sink the case of excess. Grace belabors everything she did and what she did not do -- she never spoke. THat is, until they had been naked for at least 10 minutes, finds herself bent over and being prodded, is asked where/how she wants it, and then, then, finally says, actually I don't. And, according to Grace, what happens next, does the horny blueballer stiff her anyway? "Lets put our cloths on and chill out".<br /><br />All that detail, all those happenings, descriptions of foreplay after foreplay, all heading to the main event. And just a couple words, not shouted for surely she would have that detail, and, Anari stops. Grace sinks her own charges. Of course, getting that above the noise is the challenge.Mike in Ashevillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382212538453364137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16333114.post-33147450048418702642018-01-15T16:06:51.452-05:002018-01-15T16:06:51.452-05:00I actually clicked into that Atlantic article dire...I actually clicked into that Atlantic article directly after I read your post last night and wondered If you had seen it.<br /><br /><br />btw Yelpification is pretty good.<br /><br />Rixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11202494967710251057noreply@blogger.com